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I couldn’t resist the corny rhyme, sorry. So it’s Wednesday again, and I know I’ve been hinting at blogs to come. There was a reason I was holding off writing this one. But now I can write it! So in December my man and I decided that school really does a number on our lives when we are in the heat of the semester and forget to take a minute to ourselves. We made a pact to go on one date night a month, factored it into the budget so there would be money in the jars for a nice dinner or a dinner and a movie or some other sort of fun activity. We wrote it down on a napkin (because we were at a restaurant) and posted it front and centre on the vision board which lives on the wall in our bedroom. There’s really no way to avoid it. Its there, at the top of the napkin under the title “GOALS FOR 2012″.
The date night concept was originally just a solution to university woes. Once a week was unreasonable to work around essays and midterms and such, so we would just end up postponing. And we certainly needed the break in the middle of the semester, so “end of semester celebration” every three months wouldn’t work either. Once a month was perfect. Time goes by so quickly we’re already halfway to the next date night before we even realize that the old one was two weeks before. It was really letting us relax in the middle of what was quite possibly the most demanding semester for both of us, to date.
And then there was the bonus! We were feeding our spending habits. I mentioned we budgeted for the date nights. And I’ve mentioned before how our bad habits had been neutralized but that the urge to spend still crept up. Luckily we’re so busy with school that we don’t usually have time to spend any money, but when we do—boy do we know how to spend. We completely fly off the handle! So the once a month date nights were our controlled way of binge spending. Sure it was a controlled amount of money, but it was ours to do whatever we want with in an evening. And the icing on the cake was when we discovered that we didn’t even always need to spend the allotted amount of money for the date. In January we went to a movie for free (with our scene points). In February we were house sitting and rented a movie we had missed from the theatres, one that was in the Oscar race. March we went out for dinner at our local Cactus Club and just this past weekend we were in Whistler for an overnight stay. Wait a minute, what? We went to Whistler? Yup, you heard me. I was waiting for a big date like this one in order to share the success we’ve had with this little resolution of ours. We went on a museum tour of an old copper mine (a gift from my sister and brother in law to my History loving husband), we stayed the night at my cousin’s condo and we had saved enough from the previous months to enjoy a couple nice meals. I can’t lie to you, we weren’t perfect, but hey, its only April!
Those date nights have been a wonderful addition to our student schedules. They give us something to look forward to, they challenge us to complete essays earlier so as not to be stressed during the date. They let us talk, dream and put school and work aside; they allow us to spend without breaking the budget to do it. Our once a month dates have taken care of spenders guilt! I am already looking forward to outdoor plays and picnics for our summer dates, and who knows maybe in the early winter while hubby is making a mad dash for graduation we can make a snowboarding trip out of a date.