Everybody loves a wedding………except for my wallet!
Posted by Kara | Filed under Kara
I don’t know about you but I am delighted when I get invited to a friend or loved one’s wedding. I am always flattered that they want me to share in their beautiful day and I find it brings back fond memories of my wedding day. I get excited to see the invitations in the mail, but after the initial elation fades, I come to the realization that I have to pay for a gift. Don’t get me wrong, I am happy to give a gift, it’s just that I can’t afford much and I certainly can’t afford to follow the age old rule of “give what the plate costs”.
A wedding guest can spend a lot to attend someone’s special day and common costs can include a hair cut, new shoes, new outfit, gift, transportation and babysitting. Even if you omit the shoes and outfit, that’s a lot of money!
I get that the new couple need help getting started and we were very lucky and extremely grateful for the help people gave us, but now that I am on the giving end I am even more astounded at people’s generosity. Over the past few years when my husband and I have attended weddings we have tried to give what our plates cost and this is easy to find out by using the fabulous World Wide Web. Most wedding venues and caterers post common packages with pricing attached and given that the trend in weddings is “bigger is better” this can easily skyrocket to $300, $400 and even $500 for a couple planning to attend.
Now that we are trying to pay off debts and are living on a budget that includes a $20 per month gift allotment, we can’t afford this large expense. So what is a wedding guest to do? I want to give something meaningful but it will certainly NOT be a cheque. I turned back to my old buddy the internet in search of inspiration and came across the concept of “gifts in a jar”. Considering that I LOVE to cook and preserve quite often, I latched on to this concept immediately.
I guesstimated the number of weddings we would probably attend in the next 8 months and selected recipes for a variety of “gourmet” preserves. Topped off with a nice (economical) bottle of wine, a pair of wine glasses, some nice napkins and a set of tea towels, this made a lovely basket. At first I felt guilty that I was not giving oodles of money, but my gift was truly coming from the heart and if the couple didn’t appreciate it, well nuts to them!
There are some great websites with some lovely canning and “gifts in a jar” recipes. Here are a few:
The frugal living continues….