Wants & Needs Revisited
Posted by Gail | Filed under Smart Shopper
You no doubt have heard me rant about all the people who insist on calling things they want “needs.” From the vacation they have to take, to the snappy car they deserve to buy themselves, people can justify anything. Excuses for shopping are a dime a dozen. But sometimes, even the best intentioned of us get caught because the thing we have thoughtfully considered and decided consciously to buy comes with strings.
I have a passion to learn new things. One of the things I’m considering learning is how to sew. I used to sew as a teenager – made my own grad dress – but gave it up because I was always frustrated that it “wasn’t good enough.” Now I’m thinking more about using my brain and my dexterity to keep my brain strong, and I’m considering taking up sewing again.
The tools of sewing are a “want”. I’m clear on that. I have no illusions about being able to make clothes cheaper than I can buy them since I actually don’t need any more clothes. But there are lots of strings attached to taking up this new adventure. We’ll call these the E’s of Extra-curricular Expenses: EGO, EXTRAS and EXCITEMENT!
First, I’d need a sewing machine. What kind? Well, it sorta depends on where my EGO is when I’m shopping for the machine. What does my EGO have to do with this? Well, just as you can drive a cheap car to get your from here to there, or plunk down a year’s income for some pretty snazzy wheels, so to you can buy a functional sewing machine or one that has all the bells and whistles. Hey, I’d like a car that can parallel park itself too, but I’m not about to drop $90K to get one. And I can spend a little or a lot on my sewing machine depending on how strong a hold my EGO has on me, and how much bragging I want to do about my new toy.
Then there are the EXTRAS you don’t initially consider when you jump into a new purchase. Buying a boat? How about the life jackets you must have on board? Buying a house? How about the rooms full of furniture you’ll want to go with? Buying a sewing machine? How about the bobbins, needles, thread, material, and all the other accessories that become part of the purchase? When you buy a pair of shoes you’re pretty much done with the purchase (except maybe for the shoe-protector). But when you buy anything that has on-going upkeep or requires supplies, you not only need to think about the initial costs, but all the on-going costs. Even a frikin’ hair-cut can come with hidden costs if you need expensive product or tools to keep it looking it’s best.
Finally, there’s the EXCITEMENT factor. Those are the butterflies in your stomach as you contemplate your new purchase. You salivate, almost able to taste whatever it is you’ve been waiting to acquire. Studies show that when we shop, our brains release the chemical dopamine, which is also known as the “pleasure drug”. It plays no small role in addictive behavior because if an action makes us feel good we want to repeat it. That EXCITEMENT – the seeking of pleasure – can lead us to do things that in more rational moments seem really, really dumb. EXCITEMENT however, has a way of dulling over time. Sure we thought that signing up for the gym was a great idea, but it’s been seven weeks and we still haven’t gone back. Or that canoe seemed like a great way for the family to share a wonderful experience together, but it spends a lot more time up in the garage rafters than it does on the water. And this is my concern with the sewing machine: Will my good intentions evaporate and leave me with yet another paperweight?
Studies have shown that our buying decision play out in our brains as a fight between a pleasure center seeking the bliss of acquisition and an aversion center seeking to avoid the pain of paying. When we use credit, we subdue the “pain” and so the “pleasure” wins. But if we have to dole out the cash, we are much more likely to think twice before making the commitment.
The debate about taking up sewing is still raging in my mind. I had thought I might start small … take up knitting for example… where the investment is less and my ability to test my commitment to learning something new and practicing dexterity won’t be quite the financial commitment. Besides, I can take a pair of knitting needles just about anywhere.
October 27, 2009 at 7:16 am
Ahh, Gail, a women after my own heart – sewing machines and knitting ! My sewing machine preference is Janome. Excellent machine. Besides the bank account – our creative soul needs to be deposited into every once in a while! Best of luck in your new machine purchase. If I can be of help contact me!
October 27, 2009 at 7:18 am
Hello Gail,
This sounds much like the hobbies I wish to take up. Sure I have no doubts they are wants, just as you say. With the cash I have, I could enter into some of the hobbies, however the pain part of my brain is telling me there is better uses for that money.
regards,
Jason
October 27, 2009 at 7:54 am
GO for it Gail…you have nothing to lose…and a great wardrobe to gain.
My friend’s parents scrimped and saved all their lives, never going on a holiday, never buying a car (they took the transit everywhere), no cable because it was costly – quite literally, they were very thrift people. Even in retirement they never spent money.
One day they gave each of their 4 kids $50,000 (their ages ranged between 40 – 52). One kid spent it on renovating her house, another went on a vacation of a life time, another bought a high-priced SUV and another had a home theater built in his house.
To make a long story short, my friend’s parents passed away within 1 year of each other…without enjoying their money. Yes, their kids have and will enjoy it…actually most of it is now spent. But honestly…start living LIFE people.
It makes no sense that we not enjoy our own money (as long as we don’t have debt).
October 27, 2009 at 7:55 am
Gail, the decision to start out with knitting instead of sewing is a great one. I am a part-time knitter, and have never really gone beyond the basic stitches, but with time and patience, I know I can improve. Knitting does something wonderful for your soul, and to give a creation that you’ve made with your own tow hands is heavenly.
October 27, 2009 at 8:29 am
Yay to Elizabeth and Zelda!!
too many people who comment on this site seem to forget that we have a life to live, and that life includes things beyond our basic needs.
(but there is always the disclaimer : if you are not living beyond your means).
October 27, 2009 at 8:41 am
Gail,
Something to consider if you’re not 100% sure you’re going to like sewing – have a look at garage sales. I know it’s not the best time of year but you can often find older sewing machines for $10-$20 and some of the older ‘Singer’ machines are so well made they just keep going and going and going. I picked up a c. 1970s machine for $20 and I’ve been using it for 10+ years. After purchasing it I did pay to have it cleaned and serviced (about $50 I think) and less than a year in I chose to replace the foot petal for a little better speed control – which cost me all of $7 – and it’s been good as new since then. When I purchased my machine it came with a box of threads, bobbins, extra pieces for the machine, etc. so I was really off and running on a whole new hobby for less than $100.
Just some thoughts…
Jen.
October 27, 2009 at 8:43 am
As rabid DIYers we usually manage to justify the expense of a new tool. Sure it’s “needed” for the job at hand, but think of all the other projects we can consider doing once we have it! When my sister graduated from University my parents gave her pearls. I have no use for pearls so I asked for power tools (got a biscuit joiner for those who know what that is).
We built our own home 15yrs ago and did much of the work ourselves. We did it to save money, because we enjoy it, we are far pickier than the trades people we could have hired, and we often change our plans as the work progresses which is an expensive habbit when you’re paying someone else to do the work.
Many of the tools we have now were absolutely necessary to the work, some of what we have are even upgrades to basic models we simply wore out. We also sold a couple of tools we had used extensively but no longer needed once the heavy construction was done.
Our purchases are always well researched to determine the best cost/feature balance and purchased at the best available price. We once bought a $700 planner at Rona because we discovered they were charging 1 cent more than Home Depot. We then got them to honour their policy of giving 10% off if the same item is available cheaper anywhere else. They dropped their price by a cent the same day…
Yes outfitting a woodworking shop was an expensive undertaking, but in hindsight it was money well spent. When the house was done it was already worth $75-100k more than what we’d put into it, just based on the amount of work we’d done ourselves. Once we had the equipment, it did mean that we’ve done many projects over the years which we couldn’t have considered otherwise. We’ve built cabinetry, built in bookcases, milled custom mouldings etc. For our walk-in closet we priced out a custom closet system and for our very straightforward design they wanted $1k! We built a virtualy identical version for $170 in materials. We added a wall of built-in dressers with glassdoor upper cabinets for another $250.
The the investment in tools and dedicating nearly 1000sqft of our basement for the shop certainly makes home maintenance easier, but mostly it now falls under the header of hobby. In the case of home improvements, generally DIY it’s always cheaper but more importantly you get exactly what you want. The issue with taking up sewing as I see it is that for everyday items it really won’t save any money. You might save on special occasion items. However, the upside is the sense of pride and accomplishment from making something with your own two hands. How can you put a price on that? Also, like the woodworking, when you sew for yourself you get exactly what you want and you’ll have something unique.
Before investing in a sewing maching, can you arrange to borrow one for a couple of months? Do you know anyone going south for the winter who won’t need theirs until spring? Trying it out for a couple of weeks won’t tell you if you have the long term commitment to this new interest. If you can’t borrow one, maybe pick up a refurbished basic model and if you do stick with it, then invest in one with more features (if the projects you like require it). Many people find space in their budget for kids sports and lessons, but have trouble justifying the cost of our own personal growth courses and hobbies. If you’ve covered the essentials, and are funding your savings properly, and can still afford a new hobby, then I’m all for it!
October 27, 2009 at 8:57 am
Buying used is a great idea. I had been kicking around the idea of a sewing machine for years. With 4 kids and hubby’s work clothes Grandma was getting tired of me bringing all the mending to her. I had spent lots of time researching machines but couldn’t justify the expense (not with Grandma’s expertise for free). One day hubby came home with a ‘vintage’ Singer in a desk he had got for free – with all the little accessories. A woman was moving and eventhough she still used it she didn’t have room for it. It is older than I am but works beautifully. My mother came and drooled over my 40+yr old machine!
Am I an expert sewer now? Did I learn to make beautiful homemade gifts for family and friends?? Nope! I have used it twice – once to make a purse for my daughter and once to fix the trim on our blanket. Has it saved me money? Not one cent but it hasn’t cost me anything either.
I think you should ask around. You might be surprised how many more of “me” are out there. With beautiful machines not being used. If only you lived closer!
October 27, 2009 at 9:12 am
This sounds just like me this past year…I had wanted to learn to sew for 20 years, finally I asked my Gran to teach me on her machine. I am staying at home with my kids right now, and I wanted to learn a skill to boost the budget, while satisfiying a creative side that I have always wanted to tap into. I ended up taking a course at the local sewing machine store, and it was great! I learned the basics and some more tricky things too…since I am cheap, rather than paying for another course I thought I would look for a part time job to practice and improve my skills. I have been able to make my daughters Halloween costume, and some of the ideas that have been rattling around in my brain for years. I love it…I would suggest going to a great shop, with expertise and choose something middle of the road that can grow with your interest. Also, taking the class with my machine really let me get familiar with it and learn what it can do…Good Luck!
October 27, 2009 at 9:18 am
I think both knitting and sewing is a wonderful place to start ! I have a newer Singer sewing machine I bought about 10 years ago to replace an old used black Singer I had bought for very few dollars about 20 years before that. I too had great visions of making my children simple dresses and shorts etc. with the material to prove it but somehow never got around to it. However, I have used them many times to repair clothing and household items as well as making simple Halloween outfits for my two kids.
Do I regret buying them ? Definitely not ! Although they take up valuable storage space I would not give them up.
Knitting and crocheting are great ways to be creative and are very portable. What couch can’t use another afghan ?
I wish you well Gail with your creative pursuits and thank you again for your daily thoughts on life and money – your website is the first one I go to every morning.
October 27, 2009 at 9:31 am
My Singer is 30 years old, it cost me 70$ back in 1994 and it’s very very pretty. It only goes back and forth and has one type of stitch but it’s solid and I’ve used it so much. I think it’s a worthwhile investment. I made curtains with it, my best friend’s hupa for her wedding, veils for my bellydancing hobby, etc.
October 27, 2009 at 10:13 am
I vote knitting or crochet. I do both but overall I use my knitting needles much more. I use my sewing machines to repair my families clothing (hemming, rips, etc.) but not for much else.
I think knitting is more forgiving and easier to learn. A tip for all those newbies out there. There are a ton of tutorial videos on youtube etc. to learn basic things. For example I learned how to crochet a granny square by watching videos and reading the pattern.
October 27, 2009 at 10:17 am
I have a sewing machine. My old one was giving me problems, but after 20 years, I figured I had more than used it. My new one isn’t fancy, it does the job. My old one at the time was considered very very top of the line. The best thing about it, it didn’t have a lot of “stupid stitches” as I called them. Those decorating stitches that you might use once. Unlike you Gail, I have about 4 rubber maid containers of material to use. I want to get back into sewing. I use to enjoy it and now that the kids are older, it is time for me. My husband has even volunteered to help me sew a quilt that I have had cut out for 16 years. Luckily we have a spare machine because my sister ‘needed’ the best quilting machine on the market so she gave my daughter her old one. Still works great. I figured this will give us a chance for some ‘us’ time and besides that, get rid of some material!
I also have a ton of stamping stuff, so I have decided to get back into making cards for people as I have a ton of supplies. I use to enjoy doing this also, but everything went on a back burner with the kids.
Plus the biggest bonus is while I use up supplies, spend some time with the hubby and perhaps my daughters might join me, clean out the craft/sewing room, I’m not out spending money!!!
October 27, 2009 at 10:20 am
I just received a sewing machine for my bday and have been knitting for a few years now. STRONG WARNING — knitting can be highly addictive but releases loads of stress at the same time. I consider it my yoga. You CAN take it anywhere and there are always opportunites to knit; on the bus, waiting for an appointment or unwinding infront of the TV. It is an inexpensive and rewarding hobby.
October 27, 2009 at 10:24 am
Hey Gail, i love the fact that you want to take up sewing again. i bought a machine for a friend about 3 months ago at the goodwill. you would not believe what people give away. the machine (all metal , this is very important, take an old machine in metal, you get the best quality) with the stand came to 30$
the machine purrs like a cat. shop the goodwill shops before going to the sweing store, you’ll get a better deal this way. (and this way you will be able to thoil it!)
cheers!
October 27, 2009 at 10:57 am
I’m more of a crocheter than a knitter. It’s easier to do more complicated stuff. It’s funny… hubby moans any time I pick up new yarn (I have a Rubbermaid container full), but around this time of year I turn into a mini sweatshop, crocheting gifts for everyone! I have 5 scarves down, 4 scarves and 12 Christmas ornaments to go.
I’m actually considering making that hobby into a business… I figure there have got to be people out there who appreciate a nice handmade baby set or scarf!
October 27, 2009 at 11:26 am
It doesn’t sound like a sewing machine would be an impulse buy for you so I say go for it! Once food, shelter and safety are taken care of on Maslow’s hierarchy of needs then you need self-actualization. If you think sewing is it or at least a step in the right direction and you have the money then I might even call it a need. You can’t take the money with you when you die so you might as well enjoy it now.
I got my sewing machine as a graduation present. My mom gave me lessons and I made curtains, a quilt and clothes but mostly, no matter how much I measure and pin and baste, the project is never straight. I now use it for repairing clothes we have and making curtains and table runners. My husband initially thought I was nuts to repair clothes (why when you can just buy another) but grew to appreciate my skill when his favorite shirt got a rip, or his only comfortable pair of work pants lost a button. Now he brings me his stuff when it’s broken glad that we don’t have to spend the extra money just yet.
PS- If you frustrate easily, I’d stick with knitting. It’s soothing and mathematical so it always comes out straight!
October 27, 2009 at 11:31 am
If you’re going to buy a sewing machine, it’s better to buy a straight mechanical one with decent stitches. All the computerized components just make for more trouble — and they’ll go out of date. Decent mechanical machines will last decades with some occasional cleaning and servicing.
October 27, 2009 at 11:38 am
I love knitting and crocheting. It can get really price though with all the nice yarns out there. I found a way to get the joy of doing the work without the high price tag. I belong to a group called “Angel Hugs”, we knit and crochet anything from blankets to hats and mitts and then it is donated to various charities in the area. There are severla memeber who do not knit or crochet but want to help out. they supply all the yarn and the others do the knitting up. We get about 90% of our yarn from garage sales in the area or turn scrap yarn into granny squares. I also love finishing blanket so I get a huge box of squares from a seniors home about every other month that I join and finish. I love being able to do a hobby i love while giving back to the community.
October 27, 2009 at 11:47 am
Gail, I’ve recently taken up sewing again, myself! Although my machine was a birthday gift, most of the other supplies I use have been found through Freecycle, or in various thrift stores. It’s amazing the things people have purchased and then just sent away.
I am a knitter as well, and like sewing, it is usually far cheaper to buy a sweater than to knit one. I like to factor in “entertainment value” into the cost – all the happy hours spent working away are a big part of the enjoyment, and the finished objects can make a great gift.
October 27, 2009 at 11:59 am
I think knitting would be fun to start up. It’s pretty cheap and you can make some nice warm clothing and blankets! Go for it, Gail!
October 27, 2009 at 12:01 pm
Gail, your on the fence whether you really will use the sewing machine once you buy it. If your serious about starting up this hobby, start by looking at your schedule and determining if it is feasible to do this hobby in the near future. If you can commit to it on an ongoing basis say “once a week” or whatever amount of time you think will justify the cost, than it’s probably money well spent. IMHO
Cheers
October 27, 2009 at 12:06 pm
We can all believe that Gail has an emergency fund, doesn’t live beyond her means and pays her bills on time. I believe a sewing machine is an essential part of a household. I learned to sew in grade school but left the skill alone until I lived on my own as an adult. I borrowed a machine to make a dress I simply had to have. I got many compliments on it when I wore it. I made a couple of other outfits and again left the skill alone. Just before we got married, my husband and I talked about a sewing machine (his mother always had one as did mine) and he wanted me to have one but he wanted me to buy used. I wanted new. While I won that discussion, I think back at if I had gotten used, I don’t think I would have been as happy. Happiness costs something too. I have more than paid for my sewing machine over the years – with making form fitted diapers when my children were babies, to most of their outfits to many of the suits I have worn to work. I have taken it in once for a good cleaning and fixing and have never had issue with it. I still believe it’s a good investment. Since the invention of the internet, I don’t sew as much but think it’s time to walk away from the keyboard and get back to the foot pedal instead.
October 27, 2009 at 12:12 pm
Ok, when does thrifty goes plain cheap? Where do you draw the line? What’s the point, (if you can afford it) to curb your enthousiasm in the light of a new project before you even start?
Of course, you may be quitting shortly after… find it is not for you and give up, or simply don’t have the time to do so… But couldn it also be a calling? A new passion? The bottom line depends if you can pay for it or not… if yes… then try it out. That is what life and your hard earn cash is for… If not, there are yard sales …
And by the way, why not start your search in the used section, take on where one’s passion has dimmed and then take it from there?
But two points are very important I think. Uno, never downsize your dream… i.e. don’t rationalize yourself from sewing to end up knitting… That is, in my mind, crossing the line into the realm of cheap… Secundo, you must afford to pay for it!
October 27, 2009 at 12:18 pm
Gail – two years ago I purchased a few new pairs of pants (great sale, good quality clothing) – being that I am just over an inch too short for the standard inseam, I priced out tailors…it would have cost me $15-20 per pair of pants to have them hemmed!!!
I made the decision at that time that I could buy a reasonable quality sewing machine (lower end, but meets my needs) for about the same price and hem them myself. I’ve since hemmed pants for my husband, daughter, mother-in-law – fixed a few torn coats, meded a few household items…and have made back my money several times over (compared to having to pay someone else do it)- and now I have a machine available to me should I find/make the time to take up hobby sewing as I’ve always thought about.
So Gail, I agree – we must consider all associated costs – but be sure to factor in the fringe benefits too.
October 27, 2009 at 12:19 pm
I find it interesting that I am taking a different take from almost every body else’s on this. I think that part of the point Gail is making is that if you undertake a new hobby or a learn a different, assessing the true cost so you can account for it properly in the budget is very important.
I would like to try many things. Like Fay mentioned, I have to think about the time I can put into this new endeavour. Is it worth it to spend all this money if I don’t end up having the appropriate amount of time to enjoy it? Mix that with Gail’s message of estimating the true financial cost of enjoying this new trick. Those evaluations will help you find a hobby you can afford and enjoy without having a new dust collector in a closet (behind a those other dust collector from other projects).
I always ask myself before getting into these things: “Is this going to happen?” Sometimes, the answer is no. When it is yes, I usually find I want to spend even more time doing it and I wish for more hours during the day.
October 27, 2009 at 12:42 pm
I crochet and have done a little knitting. I prefer to crochet it feels easier to me. I have also been sewing since elementary school. I would suggest borrowing a machine to decide if it is your thing. If it is and you decide on a new model buy the simpliest machine you can get away with. The more bells and whistles on a model the more things can break. I am currently drooling over the heavy duty singer (all metal!). This model is a little pricier than some other basic models but the quality is worth the cost. I don’t think you can go wrong with a Singer. My grandmother’s singer she got when she married in the 50s is sitting on my sewing table and the only problem I have with it is button holes. If you plan on sewing on any tough or thick fabrics you will need to consider a machine that is heavy duty. Growing up we had my mom’s old metal Singer and a newer basic model machine. There were just some things the basic model could not sew through and so we would get the metal machine out. I have do say I don’t use any of the fancy stitches. Only straight, offset, zig zag and button holes.
Don’t assume sewing will cost you any less money for a given item but you will get exactly what you want. All my friends are having kids right now and the one thing they all ask me for is one of my hand made blankets.
October 27, 2009 at 12:47 pm
My hobby is scrapbooking. This hobby will eat your wallet alive if you let it!!! While the EGO doesn’t really factor into it, the EXTRAS (new paper lines, new tools, new everything 3-4 times per year in this industry) and the EXCITEMENT (what beautiful paper! feel this ribbon! ) will get you. Even if you scrapbook digitally you will spend money buying new creations (granted, you can use them forever, just by changing their colors and sizes … but realistically you would want “new” items sometimes too so all your creations don’t look identical).
This hobby doesn’t allow for much second hand buying, but sharing is a big thing and is very helpful. Tools can easily be shared, and leftover embellishments and paper can be passed on to other scappers.
Ultimately, because this hobby has integrated my three greatest passions of photography, storytelling, and tactile crafting, I am willing to spend money on it. It is really my only hobby at this point in my life, and I imagine that I will continue doing it for years to come. I can thoil spending quite a bit … but now that I am on mat leave with GOBS of stuff already, I have cut back a LOT. Once I found out I was pregnant, I only shopped once/month on double-stamp day, knowing that I could cash in my filled loyalty cards when I was on my shoestring mat leave budget. I am going back through “old” (i.e. 4 year old) stock and mixing it with newer items to create my pages. I am creating embellishments when possible rather than buying them. When I do buy things, I buy less. Overall I am being much more careful with spending, but I am not experiencing any downside in my creativity. (Hmmm … did I really need to spend so much for all these years then???) On the contrary, having certain restrictions forces me to be even more creative!
I think it is possible to be frugal with any hobby, although some are generally more expensive than others. As long as you are careful with your purchases, if you get pleasure and creative fulfillment from your hobby, I believe any hobby is well worth the money!
October 27, 2009 at 12:58 pm
I purchased a basic Singer sewing machine 10 years ago. I am not an expert seamstress however I have enjoyed using it. I have made curtains, hems on pants, etc… I paid less than $100 for it and it works great to this day. I have attempted several times to knit however I just can seem to get into it. I hope someday to be able to try again. Good luck Gail & no matter what decision you will make, it will be the right one for you.
October 27, 2009 at 1:04 pm
We recently had a change of income in our house. Hubby was offered what on the surface appeared to be a better job. It was 7yrs up in his career path with a much more recognized company in his industry and the pay was 6k more. We thought it was a great deal and our friends were telling us to jump on it. Once we factored in that he’d no longer be taking the bus and would have to take the car (and it’s added expenses) that meant I couldn’t return my car which comes off lease next year (or return it and buy a different one, which was never the plan) and that he would loose medical benifits and pension for 6 months, plus foreit earned pension benfits from the old company, we realized that this 6k/year raise was actually going to cost us an extra 10k/year.
We took the time to figure out the true cost. In the end it wasn’t about the money, it was about the experience, and that’s how we justified, and shuffled our budget. It’s a simillar situation as Gail mentioned. Sometimes we have to put aside the cheering and crunch the numbers and figure out the bottom line, then decide. The upside is if your informed when you make the choice, you won’t regret it.
October 27, 2009 at 1:09 pm
Oh so true! (and sew true too)
I have THREE sewing machines, and I haven’t plugged one in since my youngest learned to walk (he is now 8). I got the fancy machine, because I was SURE that I would use it all the time, and I did while the babe was a babe. I made cloth diapers, recieiiving blankets, nursing pads and that sort of thing. I even made a fitted slip cover for my couch and a wallhanging quilt! But as soon as my toddler toddled over and messed with the machine, I packed it up. And the poor old thing hasn’t seen the light of day since. I think about how much I want to sew, but it sits.
And then there are the other two. One of them has been in my husband’s family for generations, a fantastic Singer treadle machine that apparently still works… but it is just pretty furniture now.
And this is the embarassing one…. I bought an OLD lime green monster with a KNEE pedal at a garage sale for a bargain $5 this summer. Why? Well the fancy one is smarter than I am and will not force a needle through thick stuff… it has a clutch or something to protect the motor. But this old girl will go through anything if I have the arm power to turn the wheel (at least thats what I was told), but it too it is sitting neglected in a far corner of the basement.
So I like sewing and I have the equipment, what is stopping me?! Honestly it is the PIA factor. I don’t have the space to leave a sewing project out, and there is a real threat of my pieces and trimmings scattering from the kids, dog, cat or husband if I do make room to leave it out. And I KNOW that there is no such thing as a few uninterupted hours to set up, prepare, construct and finish anything these days!
sigh….. maybe I’ll sew my grandkid’s things one day.
Good thing sewing machines don’t have an expiry date!
October 27, 2009 at 1:11 pm
I can’t sew. If we pop a button in our house, we wait until my husband gets home from work so he can sew it back on (my Mother-in-law taught all of her kids basic life-skills like sewing). I envy my friends who can sew and I always appreciate the beautiful hand-made gifts I receive from them.
I can knit though. I have been knitting since I was about 6 (my grandmother taught me). It is therapeutic, rewarding and creative. It can be cheap and cheerful or expensive – depends on what you are making and what yarn you use.
Homeless shelters and women’s shelters are always happy to receive donations of hats/mitts/scarves and gloves. My grandmother and her friends knit and crochet baby booties/mitts/hats and blankets for their local hospital (for the new babies and the preemies).
I have always had trouble getting the hang of crochet. I am trying again (thank goodness for you-tube videos) and am determined to make something with my crochet needle!
Good luck with whatever you decide to pursue!
October 27, 2009 at 1:33 pm
Hi Gail
I had a friend go through that same senario but it was with a treadmill. She thought if she bought one she’d want to walk or run more, hey why not it’s sitting right there. I suggested she take mine that was ‘just sitting’ there to see if she actually would use it. She had it for 4 months and was using it everyday-for a week. After that she never touched it and her husband used it faithfully everyday until I needed it back. Her husband decided he could really use one of his own and went out and bought one KNOWING he’d use it.
I’m sure you’ve thought it all out:) Myself i’ll buy used (Freecycle is also a GREAT way to get unwanted items) or borrow until i’m sure it’s going to get used.
My treadmill? It’s waiting for those REALLY cold days i don’t feel like walking outside.
Have a good one.
October 27, 2009 at 1:35 pm
@ Marie,
I agree with your thoughts. I think Gail is trying to weigh ‘scratching the itch’ and knowing that the ‘honeymoon phase’ will definitely end and then, will it have been worth the financial outlay if the sewing machine becomes the next place to toss mail and coats on. I know I’m a bit ‘ADD’ – I’m quick to take up a ‘new’ hobby but my interest quickly wanes as I tend to be a bit rabid about acquiring a new skill, but then the allure quickly fades once I master it. But, as most posters have suggested, Gail can test the waters by buying used or borrowing a machine to see if it piques her interest for more than a nano-second. I’ll crochet like a fiend, lose interest and then will simply put it away and not do it for years, until I get bored with my current ‘hobby’ and then I wander back to it. I’ve got tons of wool tucked away (from my knitting and crocheting days). My current interests are sudoku (free), crossword puzzles (free) and jigsaw puzzles (not terribly expensive). Gotta keep the gray matter synapses connected and active!
Gail – whatever you decide, enjoy it!
October 27, 2009 at 2:24 pm
I knit, sew, scrapbook, horseback ride and want to get into geocaching.
For all you knitters, I highly, highly reccommend joining this free online community http://www.ravelry.com It has thousands and thousands of free patterns. I think there are about half a million members right now.
I suggest to try the knitting for now, as sewing is the more expensive hobby, and creates the most clutter.
October 27, 2009 at 2:53 pm
Gail, I’m with you – recently I have been contemplating taking up knitting and sewing. Years ago I did do both – but only very basic. Now that I am paying more attention to my budget, I have decided to make some presents for Christmas. I was in an inexpensive store recently and saw some Christmassy wool on special – so right now I am knitting two Christmas scarves for my youngest grandchildren. (these will be early presents so that they can wear them through the season).
I have also been thinking of sewing again, but don’t have a machine. If I do decide to do this, some of the ideas shared about getting a used one will help. But the jury is still out on this. I am not convinced that I would actually sew if I got a machine. But am thinking about it.
October 27, 2009 at 3:26 pm
Just an interesting observation – have you noticed that, with the exception of Marc, all the responses to this post have been from females? I guess knitting and sewing really are “woman’s work,” (albeit with a few exceptions), even in the 21st century.
October 27, 2009 at 3:37 pm
Rhiannon – most of the responses to most postings on this blog are from women, so I’m not sure you’re showing conclusive evidence of a divergence across the sexes here. That said, I’m male, 34, and do not sew. But neither does my wife, neither does her mom. Thankfully, my mom is a pro at it. It’s not that I view it as as woman’s work, I just never learned and quite frankly, am not that big into clothes so having my one or two new pairs of pants a year hemmed isn’t that big a financial deal to me. I did learn how to cook, clean, change a diaper or a vacuum bag, and do lots around the house however.
October 27, 2009 at 3:50 pm
I used to sew nearly all my clothes and enjoyed the creative freedom it gave me. My basic Senger machine got a lot of use for many years. Two years ago I debated getting a new machine, but I just couldn’t justify buying a fancy machine. Why? Because I hadn’t sewn anything from scratch in a very long time and really only use a machine now for basic repairs, alterations and hemming. So I reigned in my EGO and found a new machine for $75. The only extras I bought were needles & bobbins.
It’s taken me a long time to realize the truth, that I bore easily and that my creative urges will inevitably find some new channel to explore. So I now try to watch how big an investment I make.
I’m in complete agreement with those that say test the waters first, either take up knitting and see how that goes, or find a good basic 2nd hand machine. And thank-you for the reminder that even things we need come with strings attached.
October 27, 2009 at 4:27 pm
I used to crochet (like knitting but one needle) when I was broke and commuting by bus alot and it was a great way to make xmas gifts (shawls, scarves, nothing too fancy). People LOVED them. It made commuting go fast and there were a few years where I didn’t even enter a mall in the last 3weeks before xmas.
LOL I tried to teach my husband to crochet and he made it through a scarf but was very frustrated. Boy, can he make a great meal, though. It’s a big generalization, but men don’t seem to have small fingers and small-tool dexterity for knitting/crocheting. In the same way that I don’t have the upper arm strength.
October 27, 2009 at 4:42 pm
tigerlily wrote: “men don’t seem to have small fingers and small-tool dexterity for knitting/crocheting”
I always find it interesting when people say things like that because I have men being very meticulous around computer board components and the details in woodwork and machining can be significantly more demanding than knitting.
It is all up to the individual’s interest.
October 27, 2009 at 5:08 pm
Take up cross-stitch. $30 you’ll be entertained for a year and if you only have 15 minutes to spare, you can work on it. Plus, people hang on to the cross-stitch someone they love made for them. Clothes go out of fashion. If you ever contemplate scrap-booking, keep in mind, they’re the first thing binned when you die! Nobody wants someone else’s picture albums. ( I learned this cleaning up estates for a lawyer!)
I spent 2 weekends considering spending scads o’money I did not have on something super expensive that was a super good buy and in the end I finally came to my senses and didn’t. What a waste of good energy. I feel foolish for wrapping up all my energy in salivating over a WANT, but at least I don’t feel foolish about wrapping up all my money in it.
October 27, 2009 at 5:22 pm
I knit and I sew, but I will say that knitting has many advantages. It is less investment up front. And also, it’s much more portable. You can take your knitting with you wherever you go, if you’re so inclined. Plus, it’s the right time of year for a nice cozy scarf.
October 27, 2009 at 5:29 pm
This post is funny timing. I have always wanted to learn how to machine sew. I told my mom on Tuesday that I was thinking about asking for a sewing machine for Christmas so I could learn. She said that was silly because I could just use hers and she would teach me. So she gave me a quick lesson on the basics. On Friday I made a baby’s quilt!! No I did not take a lot of time making it perfect but the top is complete, and I must say that I feel a sense of accomplishment already. I went to Fabricland yesterday and bought some fabric to make either another quilt or some pillowcases. I think it’s a great life-skill to have!
I have knitted before, I learned in university. Just the basics though, I knitted a scarf. It was fun but in university it took me a long time to complete! I have heard that crocheting is easier than knitting. Whatever you choose, I think you should definitely take on a new hobby. Even if you only get to it a couple of hours each week, when you accomplish your project you will feel so good about yourself, and that is what it’s all about!
October 27, 2009 at 5:52 pm
Well, this post is right up my alley! I made my first dress at 8 years of age. Yep, laid my 3 year old sister on mom’s yellow chenille bedspread, traced around her, cut it out and sewed it by hand – while mom, dad, my aunt and uncle were playing cards!! When Darlene pranced around in her new dress, everyone busted out laughing and I burst into tears!! But, looking back, my mom wasn’t mad (which is why, I am sure, that I am still at it), it WAS funny, and Darlene wore that thing till it fell apart!!! I am now 52, and have graduated to wedding dresses, and much more. My talent has always been encouraged, and has always helped me make ends meet. Gail, if you do decide to embark on this venture, here’s another ‘hidden’ cost you might not have thought of – all those acquaintances who can’t thread a needle. You will be bombarded with ‘Can you…?”, at which point you will have to decide if you want to use up your free time to help a ‘friend/relative’ with shortening a pair of pants, and if you do, are you going to charge for your time?? My mother-in-law told me 15 years ago to never take my machine out to do another person’s mending for less than $5. Diz, I only charge $8 for hemming dress pants, $10 for jeans, and $12 for cuffs. Wish this community supported $15/20 hemming!! *pol and Dana, my machines have always been a home fixture, and my three sons can all sew. The boys have won prizes at fairs, and the youngest took great pride in wearing his homemade clothes to high school – a really cool pair of black cord pants and a full length black velvet “Matrix” coat. The girls think it’s cool!! Right now, I am on my second ‘little black dress’ for co-workers going on holidays. The first dress needed boning, which I just happened to have in my collection of supplies. I can relate to Gail’s list, because looking at my ’supplies’ I shudder at the money I have invested, because I ‘might need it someday”. Something people don’t consider is that I (or another seamstress) am the one to make the trip to the store to pick up product to do your sewing. I now factor the expense into my bill. I love sewing and can’t imagine not sewing. But, as some posters have said, the good old fashioned Singers are the best. I learned to machine sew on my Grandmother’s Singer treadle machine – I still have it, but now it is covered with a lace cloth and my bell collection. I have a Singer serger, which allows me to finish seams similar to factory made. I have had this machine for almost 20 years, and paid $1,000 for it. About 7 years ago, I attempted to start a home-based sewing business, and invested $8,000 in a Husqvarna Designer I computerized embroidery sewing machine. Men know the Husqvarna name – lawn mowers, chain saws, etc. Extremely high quality. The good part was that I could go online and download upgrades to my machine and have all the new features. The bad part, now, is that the floppy disk port is obsolete, and I need to upgrade to a USB stick port. This will involve having all my embroidery patterns, which are on floppies, transferred to a USB stick also. My machine also has two touch screens; one of them needs to be replaced, as most of the features aren’t connecting anymore. So, while I don’t regret buying this machine, I need to save up about $700 to return it to it’s former glory. For now, I use it the same as any other basic machine, with the exception of about 500 built in stitches, and the most amazing buttonhole attachment! I decided to sort out my fabric collection – it now covers a 5 ft x 9 ft ping pong table, and a bazillion rubbermaid totes underneath it, and bits and pieces more in other hiding places. I have come to the realization that I will not live long enough to find a use for each piece, and will be trying to sell them to other addicts/sewers. Since I recycle jeans into quilts, everyone I know gives me their cast offs, and I hate to say no. It’s no wonder I have to live in such a big place! I need the room for my stuff. I also sew and knit, and have every size of needle and hook ever produced, except when I need it, and can’t find it! Of course, it goes without saying that I also have boxes and boxes of wool and crochet cotton, just in case. I can crochet in the dark, knitting I have to pay a little bit of attention, but I enjoy both, and find them relaxing hobbies. For the record, it isn’t always cheaper to sew your own clothes, unless you are a ‘hard to fit’ size, but the sense of pride in modeling your own creations is priceless. Everyone should know the basics of sewing, but many don’t. My son’s friend has a twin sister, who brought D.J. her work pants and a card of buttons, for HIM to do her mending. I suggested he teach her how to do it herself, and he sadly shook his head and said “I tried”. I guess he has a source of future income as well, **chuckles**…. Gail, do what is right for you, only you know how much time you have available, and believe me, sewing can become addicting!
October 27, 2009 at 6:57 pm
Actually, Marie, many computer board components are manufactured overseas, by poorly paid women in factories. And the details in woodworking and other machining require attention to detail and meticulousness – I don’t disagree.
I also agree that it was a big generalization. I even said so! In no way did I question the ability of men to focus on tasks and produce fine work.
October 27, 2009 at 7:10 pm
I am a knitter and think it’s a great way to relax-not to mention keep my hands out the money and cookie jars! I usually buy my yarns on a per project basis so that I stay focused and finish my project. Plus it helps from turning my home into an alpaca farm. For all the crafters on this blog, if you want to make a few extra bucks-or buy something handmade, go to Etsy.com (it’s like ebay but for handmade gifts). Happy knitting!
October 27, 2009 at 8:18 pm
Keep at the knitting Gail. It’s very therapeutic…look how it helped Madame Defarge!
But, don’t ever think it is a lot cheaper. Ever know a knitter with a ’stash’?
However it’s very portable and I have a really simple 101 baby afghan pattern I’ll send you. New parents love them and think you are amazing.
I can sew very simply. Don’t even think of giving me a pattern to cut out – bias? phewt! But, I’ve made Victorian crazy quilts with oodles of hand embroidery and trinkets. Talk about a labour of love. I’ve also hooked rugs and have three my Mom made and one her great-grandmother made.
I know a man who does beautiful knitting, crocheting, and especially rug hooking. Another who does fine woodworking. Everyone marches to a different drum. Just listen for the beat…..
October 27, 2009 at 10:42 pm
“tigerlily says: Actually, Marie, many computer board components are manufactured overseas, by poorly paid women in factories”
And they are fixed in North America! Working in research laboratories I saw men building boards and exchanging components of boards. They do very careful work doing so. Research equipment is expensive and little money is given to do it. The $1.49 component is affordable on the $200 + board.
October 27, 2009 at 11:12 pm
I think that I need to learn how to REALLY consider my purchases better, I mean, REALLY consider them. Think them over. Weigh out the pros and cons, etc…
Even something as ‘minor’ as a dinner out.
It frustrates me how quickly I whip out my cash.
October 27, 2009 at 11:18 pm
Knitting and sewing while both crafty, I’m not sure if being committed to one will show your commitment to the other. As an example, I’m a big knitter and tried to get my friend to knit. She did for a bit, but it wasn’t really her thing. Sewing she got really into and does all this amazing work. Me? I’m not much of a sewer.
I also don’t know how much cheaper knitting would be compared to sewing. In the long run knitting can cost much more depending on the materials you use. If you can afford it and it’s within your budget, investing in something more expensive that is better quality will last longer. I’m also one of those people who spend more on better yarn because if I’m spending 50 hours knitting it, I want to enjoy knitting with it and wearing it.
October 28, 2009 at 2:57 pm
Great post. I have crocheted since I was about 10 and a friend’s mom taught me. Took me years to pick up on knitting but I can do scarves and dishclothes. My Mom doesn’t do any of the crafty stuff and doesn’t know where I get it from. I did take up quilting about 10 years ago and have a stash that is nuts. It’s all put away right now. I think from time to time of getting rid of it, but time has taught me that the “bug” will bite and then I’d go out a buy more. Well at least now I’d think it through before actually going out to buy it. I also picked up on beading jewellery and that was costly. Lots of containers full of goregeous beads at my house. Found through that venture that I prefer wire working to stringing. Now if only I could find the time to spend to work on some of these projects.
Gail is right on the money with regards to the associated costs to these things. If you are not careful, they can sky rocket. I’m glad that now we are on a budget, the cc’s are no longer being used and I really think two or three times before making purchases that aren’t on the budget.
Thanks for all the wonderful comments here.
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