The Other Shoe
Posted by Gail | Filed under Life Lessons
I grew up hearing the saying, “I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop.” I’ve said it myself. It’s a version of “This is too good to be true,” and it’s how we question our abundance. As if “loss” is a must in life, we struggle through tough times to get to the good stuff and then, once there, walk around on eggshells waiting for it to be whisked away. Damn.
Why do we believe that what is good can’t possibly last? And why is it that some people seem to always have a cup that runneth over while others seem never to be able to sip from the cup of goodness?
Is it that our own doubts, or own lack of confidence, actually get in our way? Could it be that when we focus on the negative, we waste energy that should be focused on what it is we want to achieve.
“I hate my job” could become, “I’m looking for work that makes me feel like I’m contributing.”
“I’m not happy where I’m living,” might become “I’m looking for a place with loads of light.”
“I can’t seem to find the energy,” would turn into, “I’m watching what I’m eating and going to bed earlier to boost my energy for the things I want to accomplish.”
A little stream doesn’t have the force to move the boulder in its path. It must flow around the barriers to get to where it wants to go. Make this analogy work for you. Instead of pushing against boulders – beating your head against a wall – go around. Find another way. Make your own path.
If we push, resist, fight, we waste energy we could be using to imagine and create the reality we want.
You may not be able to change the people around you, and you may not be able to change the circumstances that surround you, but if you change your perception, you change everything. Hating, being resentful, holding on to anger are full of friction. Relax and let go of the resentment, of the anger, and the friction lessens. There’s less resistance and the energy flows more smoothly.
This is what “forgiveness” is all about: letting go, relaxing, and releasing so you lessen the friction and bring more positive energy flowing through and around you.
Today, begin to frame your life in terms of what you want to achieve. If there are people with whom you have had difficulties, send positive energy their way, send them love and joy, and put the positive flow of your small stream to work. You might be surprised at the river you become.