Who’s In Charge Here?
Posted by Gail | Filed under Life Lessons
Are you sure you’re in charge of your life? Or could it be that you’re actually a product of all the programming you’ve been given? From childhood and the need to live by our parents’ rules, through school age and all the rules imposed there, to adulthood and the need to fit in, we are being programmed. Little ones say what they want to be when they grow up and their ‘dults smile smugly, “That’s NOT going to happen, don’t get too big for your britches.” Young’uns want to change the world and they hear, “You’re only one person, how much of a difference do you think you can make.” Most of the messages are designed to keep kids, and then young adults, and finally even old adults, in their places. Follow the rules. Don’t rock the boat. Be a good girl.
So how do you take back the control for your thinking?
I believe it starts by deciding what you really, really want. This isn’t about what you can achieve, or what you can accomplish. It’s about what you really, really want from your life. You have to imagine. You have to look outside the box. You have to be willing to try and fail and try again.
It is a little sad that we live in a society where many people measure themselves by their STUFF instead of by their growth. I’ve been lucky in my life. I’ve had the opportunity to try new things. I’ve had the opportunity to grow. But part of the reason I’ve been so happy is that I’ve faced changed with optimism and excitement.
You’ve seen those random pictures of plants growing up through cement, right? We see trees clinging to cliff-sides. We see remarkable evidence of determination to survive and thrive. Why don’t we have the same sense of determination for our own personal growth then? Why are we willing to measure ourselves by the shortest of rulers?
If what you’ve been doing until now isn’t making you happy, if you don’t like the results you’ve been getting, maybe it’s time to change the way you’re thinking. Break through the cement set around your thoughts as you were growing up. Find the sun and air and water you need to thrive and be happy. Change the way you look at things, and what you’re looking at will change.
Answer these questions:
- How meaningful is your life? (rank it on a scale of 1-10)
- Are the things you’re currently spending your time doing adding to your sense of meaningfulness? (how?)
- If you could do anything you wanted to have a more meaningful life, what would it be? (write them down)