Posted by Gail | Filed under Life Lessons
I’ve just finished shooting the last episode of Princess. Wow! It’s been a bit of an eye-opener because I’ve always known that there are people who are shallow and selfish, but I never before realized how they got that way. THEM WUZ MADE. Do you know why a Princess can’t tell when enough is enough? To a large extent it’s because they have developed the sense that they can have whatever they want, whenever they want it.
Where do you suppose this sense of entitlement comes from?
People who are raised in North America may have a sense of entitlement simply because they have no idea how lucky they are. If you’ve never been hungry, never wondered where you would sleep, never had to go without shoes, then your sense of what is by rights your due may be askew.
If every winter your family went on vacation to a warmer clime, if every summer you went to camp, if each fall you started the new school year with a fresh wardrobe and all the school supplies you could imagine, why would you think you were entitled to any less as an adult. Even if you haven’t got the income to support it, you have no idea why you can’t have everything you want when you want it. And if you’ve been handed a pile of credit, no doubt you’ll satisfy your sense of entitlement, damn the long-term costs.
People who watch a lot of TV, read flashy magazines and walk the malls have a sense of entitlement because they come to believe that “everyone else has one so I want one too.” But if everyone else is going into debt to have the lifestyle you crave, then what you’re craving isn’t real… it’s smoke and mirrors. Playing the keeping-up-with-the-Jones game is stupid at the best of times, but it’s suicidal if you’re doing it on credit.
Just look at the size of the houses we’re living in now compared to those our parents were raised in. Back then people were having more kids but living in houses far smaller than we’re willing to settle for today. And only the rich and famous could afford granite counters and marble floors. Now we want a room for every child, plus a living room, family room, media room, and kids’ playroom. And if we have to share a television, we’re hard-done-by. Unfortunately, as our expectations have gone up, our ability to pay for them has been seriously challenged.
While we like to castigate the younger generation for their rampant sense of entitlement, it’s not just a problem of youth and immaturity. Age has little to do with it. Spot a person who is worried about being judged by others and you can be sure that Princess is doing some judging of her own, regardless of the fact that she should be old enough to know better. See a Princess who puts more stock in her beauty routine than in their RRSP portfolio and you’ll bear witness to the shallow and insecure who must maintain an image even when it’s to the detriment of their family’s financial security. And as for the Princesses who bully and boast, pushing the people they claim to love around so they can have their own way, age has nothing to do with that.
The question I’ve been left with after working with 45 Princesses is this: Why do the people in their lives put up with their crap? What do you think?