Comments on: Divorce Sucks! http://gailvazoxlade.com/blog/archives/114 Thu, 09 Feb 2012 11:17:54 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Beverley http://gailvazoxlade.com/blog/archives/114/comment-page-1#comment-13414 Beverley Tue, 23 Jun 2009 14:42:22 +0000 http://www.gailvazoxlade.com/blog/?p=114#comment-13414 Divorce is can be complicated. This is a second marriage for both myself and my husband. I receive inconsistant child support payments and my husband pays both child support and spousal support (even though his ex wife remarried) . It's been an uphill battle dealing with a blended family, child support, spousal support payments as well as making our families budget balence each month. Divorce doesn't end when the papers are signed. Just my two sense worth... Divorce is can be complicated. This is a second marriage for both myself and my husband. I receive inconsistant child support payments and my husband pays both child support and spousal support (even though his ex wife remarried) . It’s been an uphill battle dealing with a blended family, child support, spousal support payments as well as making our families budget balence each month. Divorce doesn’t end when the papers are signed. Just my two sense worth…

]]> By: John Rush http://gailvazoxlade.com/blog/archives/114/comment-page-1#comment-8614 John Rush Sun, 05 Apr 2009 10:31:01 +0000 http://www.gailvazoxlade.com/blog/?p=114#comment-8614 Another item about divorce as well, I know this well the hard way. Learned some years ago If you are given insurance proceeds from a setttlement you were involved in, keep it separate leave the exclusive nature of it traceable. Its exempt in Ontario from net family property. You woudn't believe the number of people that get one of these checks from such an happening and plop fizz into the joint account it goes..opps bad deal. Another item about divorce as well, I know this well the hard way.
Learned some years ago
If you are given insurance proceeds from a setttlement you were involved in, keep it separate
leave the exclusive nature of it traceable.
Its exempt in Ontario from net family property.
You woudn’t believe the number of people that get one of these checks from such an happening and plop fizz into the joint account it goes..opps bad deal.

]]> By: Irene Nickerson http://gailvazoxlade.com/blog/archives/114/comment-page-1#comment-948 Irene Nickerson Tue, 25 Nov 2008 01:29:43 +0000 http://www.gailvazoxlade.com/blog/?p=114#comment-948 Many years ago I cut out of the G & M (I think) an article of yours on "protecting a financial gift from spouses' clutches". Now my daughter is in that situation with two daughters (10, l3), after 14 years of marriage. You mentioned lending money after execution of a promissory note which I have done. But, does this apply under Family Law in the the Province of Quebec? This is where they have lived for the 14 years. I am in N.S. Any other tips would be greatly appreciated!! Enjoy your TV series "'til debt us do part" Many years ago I cut out of the G & M (I think) an article of yours on “protecting a financial gift from spouses’ clutches”. Now my daughter is in that situation with two daughters (10, l3), after 14 years of marriage. You mentioned lending money after execution of a promissory note which I have done. But, does this apply under Family Law in the the Province of Quebec? This is where they have lived for the 14 years. I am in N.S.

Any other tips would be greatly appreciated!!

Enjoy your TV series “’til debt us do part”

]]> By: Jenny http://gailvazoxlade.com/blog/archives/114/comment-page-1#comment-947 Jenny Thu, 08 May 2008 22:57:42 +0000 http://www.gailvazoxlade.com/blog/?p=114#comment-947 Speaking as a child of divorce, may I humbly suggest something else to anyone who is divorcing with kids -- not only don't put them in the middle, but try actively saying nice things --- ANYTHING -- about the other parent in the presence of the child. As often as you can hack it. It will be like water in the desert to your kid, believe me. Speaking as a child of divorce, may I humbly suggest something else to anyone who is divorcing with kids — not only don’t put them in the middle, but try actively saying nice things — ANYTHING — about the other parent in the presence of the child. As often as you can hack it. It will be like water in the desert to your kid, believe me.

]]> By: Vicki http://gailvazoxlade.com/blog/archives/114/comment-page-1#comment-946 Vicki Wed, 07 May 2008 11:52:05 +0000 http://www.gailvazoxlade.com/blog/?p=114#comment-946 Dear Gail, Just wanted to say that not all parts of divorce sucks! I have been legally separated for over a year now(went through the Collaboritive Law process) and have a daughter who will be three in July. I know that I am very lucky because there were very few snags in our seperation. I truely believe that maturity plays a huge role in working through a divorce. I have come to realise that eventhough the break down of our marriage occured because of one unforgiveable act on my husbands behalf(plus numerous not so huge acts) that there are always things that both partners contribute that need to be worked on. One of the best pieces of advice I could ever give is to make sure, NO MATTER WHAT, if there are children involved to make sure that they are always thought of first and NEVER placed in the middle...and that's coming from a developmental specialist. Take the high road boys and girls and be mature...then yell, scream,cry and say a choice few words and try to move on. (I did my fair share and I'm not trying to say that everything came up rosey, but it worked out very well for us...not your typical horror story) My ex-husband and I have an open door policy which is working well for us and we have a "family" dinner once a week with our daughter and visits always end in a family hug (if our daughter asks for one) no matter who is around. Thanks for writting about such a broad range of topics Gail! Regards, Vicki Dear Gail,
Just wanted to say that not all parts of divorce sucks! I have been legally separated for over a year now(went through the Collaboritive Law process) and have a daughter who will be three in July. I know that I am very lucky because there were very few snags in our seperation. I truely believe that maturity plays a huge role in working through a divorce. I have come to realise that eventhough the break down of our marriage occured because of one unforgiveable act on my husbands behalf(plus numerous not so huge acts) that there are always things that both partners contribute that need to be worked on.
One of the best pieces of advice I could ever give is to make sure, NO MATTER WHAT, if there are children involved to make sure that they are always thought of first and NEVER placed in the middle…and that’s coming from a developmental specialist.
Take the high road boys and girls and be mature…then yell, scream,cry and say a choice few words and try to move on. (I did my fair share and I’m not trying to say that everything came up rosey, but it worked out very well for us…not your typical horror story) My ex-husband and I have an open door policy which is working well for us and we have a “family” dinner once a week with our daughter and visits always end in a family hug (if our daughter asks for one) no matter who is around.
Thanks for writting about such a broad range of topics Gail!
Regards,
Vicki

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