Move to Positivity
Posted by Gail | Filed under Life Lessons
How often to you complain? Do you know? Have you ever watched yourself for an entire day and counted how many times you grieved about an injustice, whined about an ache, or communicated some other misery?
People who whine and complain as a matter of routine often don’t even realize what they’re doing or the negative energy that’s surrounding them. Others feel it, taste it, sense it, but the Chronic Complainer can’t. And when confronted, they are often in complete denial. If you have a pain, don’t you have the right to say so? If that someone just did you a wrong, shouldn’t you speak up for yourself?
What the Chronic Complainer doesn’t realize is that the constancy of their complaining actually attracts more negativity into their lives. Like attracts like, remember?
I had this experience recently. In my last days working in television, I was so angry all the time that I was attracting more and more reasons to be angry. (I was angry because I was being asked to compromise my values, the reality of what I was doing.) It wasn’t until I became physically ill and realized that it all stemmed from that negativity that I changed my life. And in changing my life, I changed my state of being.
Thinking positively isn’t just a “saying,” it’s a way of “being.”
Just as I ask people to do a spending analysis to see where their money is going, you can do an analysis to see how often you’re feeling positive or negative in your life. It’s a pain in the butt, but soooo worth it.
Set your phone for the ½ hr. Each time your phone “dings” (please use an unobtrusive signal that doesn’t make you crazy) make a note of what you’re thinking in that moment and whether it is negative or positive. One day may be enough to convince you to change your patterns.
So what can you do to be a more positive person? What things can you integrate into your life to support your desire for positivity and end the negativity cycle? Stop now and think about it and then list just three new practices can you integrate into your life. You’re not going to do all three at once, but you need to have at least three so you know where you’re going with this.
- I quit TV and eliminated the negative energy associated with a toxic environment.
- I reinforced my practice of writing daily.
- I explored new ways of meditating to help calm my mind and give my brain a rest.
Your turn. Think. Write some notes. Think some more. This isn’t going to happen quickly. But taking the time to work it through will be hugely satisfying.
As you fully integrate one of the things on your list, create a replacement so you always have three that you’re working towards.
Positivity is something that can be learned. Negativity is something that can be banished.